Yay! Its CHRISTMAS! I love Christmas. More for giving my grandchildren presents. Drinking snowballs {Advocat the booze} & of course Xmas dinner. Other than that it is just like any other day. I refuse to get caught up in all the drama & hype. I refuse to get caught up in any drama & hype in any walk of my life. Then there is the whole new year’s resolution thing. Apparently, that has gone out of fashion. Oh! No! You can’t say ‘New years resolutions’ Humph!
My new year’s resolutions for the year 2023. Is…To write. I enjoy writing. I am always writing, but I want to write stories. I want to write here…Also this year. I am going to fill my tiny courtyard garden to burst. With fruit, veg, flowers, and herbs. My daughter bought me a seedbox filled with 100 varieties of seeds. I am going to sow every single one of them seeds & create an edible jungle paradise…Bliss!
My Domme self will be ever-evolving. It is all about fun, and enjoyment. Definitely no ‘Serious’ training of men. If he doesn’t know how to behave by now as an adult. There is no hope for him. Of course in reality there is always hope. It is possible to change the way you think & perceive certain things. One thing I do take seriously. Is not f**king with another person’s mind…Each to their own!
As a Domme. I would use their mind against them. I will not play them off, other people. I say their own mind. As in the way they think. As individuals. We are all unique individuals. With a mind of our own. I hope not to be a self-righteous, whinge bag. As a Domme. There will be no defensive behaviour. Because I don’t need to defend myself. You are either in my life because I like you. Or…NOT!
We all have choices. I choose to write & hopefully interact with people I feel really are like-minded. As in. In my mind likes them as individuals. They don’t cause me grief. Rudeness is not tolerated. It leads to ‘NOTHING!’…Respect, manners. Gets you far…I am definitely not the cliche Domme. Accepting brat behaviour as worthy of my time & energy. Don’t get me started on the whole brat thing. OMFG!
Oo! Interesting. I just found Youtube videos. All I need now is privacy. Time alone. I could watch with headphones on…
It takes away the sense of humour & turns it into attention-seeking in an aggravating way. I have lost count of how many Dom/spankers have misconstrued my sense of humour for being a brat to earn a spanking. WTF! Mate! You are a condescending fuckwit! If someone says something I consider funny. I don’t instantly think ‘Brat!’ Earning a spanking!
Hang on. Am I being defensive? Yes. I am. I didn’t want to go there. It is not fun…I believe in the law of attraction. I want to attract individuals, who know their own minds. Not brats. Please do not send me brats…Ugh! Boring! Tedious! …Be yourself. Be funny. Be cheeky even. Do not brat. That is a real turn-off for me. It’s like ‘Oh! Am I supposed to punish you now?’ Am I supposed to threaten you ‘Young man!’…Nope! More like a ‘Lol!’ Or a ‘PMSL!’…I do appreciate funny. I appreciate all personalities. Individual, independent is the best…
I actually just had a realisation. It has always been there in my mind. Trying to get my attention. Finally, I am listening…My sub ‘label’ was treated with a lot more disrespect than my Domme label. Why is that? Is it because a sub is not supposed to think, question, or react? She is supposed to do as she is told. Bend over. Shut up! Or he of course. Are sub men treated differently? This is why I have so many questions. There is so much I want to learn. Like. Why does a mature submissive/school girl/spankee/nun? Want to take over & control what’s going on around her. All whilst contradicting herself? Hm? Just asking…
No. Honestly. It intrigues me. I want to dig deep. I want to delve into the abyss…I don’t want to control anyone. I prefer self-control. Also. Do Domme’s even care? Or do they just see £$£$£$£$. Not all Dommes have fees. Though our time & energy is precious. Imagine being bombarded continually by subbie peeps. Wanting what they want. Hence the sometimes defensive attitude I witnessed on FL…Obviously, I am seeing it from my point of view. For all I know could be laughable…
After all. Not like brats. Not like a cliche. Does that come across as airy-fairy, Blissfully unaware? Hm? Personally. Could not give a flying fanny fart. I am not into groups of people behaving in a way they believe groups behave. It doesn’t have to be that way. Attention seeking. Reeling people in. Going on about ‘Lovely’ peeps. The non stop ‘Like-minded people’ Into similar things, maybe. Each to their own. Not all of us are into the social club side of the scene. Friends yes. Clique mentality ‘Noooo!’ Am I looking for friends?
Nope! I am not looking. If I meet someone I get on well with. Then I will see them as a friend. Collecting ‘lovely’ like-minded fwends!…No! I suppose I am saying. I enjoy chatting with individual, independent peeps. Not gossiping, backstabbing, reflecting negative groupie vibes, type of people…Basically, I like everyone until they show me otherwise. Actually. If I was warned to not talk to someone. I would dislike warner peep & make the effort to talk to the person they are warning me against. Knowing I will prefer that person. If someone gossips to you. They more than likely gossip about you.
What has gossip got to do with being Domme? I can tell them off! lol…Not that it is any of my beeswax…